It’s my responsibility to understand others in order to relate to them, but it’s not my responsibility to change who I am in order to fit in with them.
I’m starting to understand that.
One thing that introverts really hate is ‘small talk’. There are far better things to talk about than the weather or the latest episode of Survivor. We think that anyone who can’t talk about the really important things in life (like how we feel about things, and why we feel that way, and how we can grow) are preferring to deny reality than to accept it.
That may or may not be true, but both introverts and extroverts process reality completely different to each other. They are opposites. The introvert processes internally, while the extrovert processes externally. If they are unable to see things from the other’s point of view, all manner of problems can occur.
I don’t have to engage in small talk with others just to fit in, if I don’t want to. But if fitting in is required, for whatever reason – whether socially or business – then maybe I do need to engage in small talk.
I’m thinking that as I grow emotionally, I may have to start accepting the needs of extroverted people around me in order to engage with them on their level, even if I feel like I’m wasting my energy.
I need to process that. Internally, of course. *smile*
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