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A new year, a new life

It’s 2015. A new year and an opportunity to create a new life. Of course, every day is the beginning of the rest of your life, and you always have the opportunity to recreate your future, every day. You can choose something different today.

I close the door to my past,
open the door to my future,
take a deep breath, and
step through to a new life.

I’ve been waking up each day of this year with change on my mind. It’s been murky, unclear. I didn’t know what was going on until today, when I realised that there are certain things in my past, in 2014, that I don’t really want to continue into 2015 and beyond.

2014 was the continuation of a bad year for me. In 2013 I went bankrupt, and then spent 9 months out of work, trying to find a new job in Canberra, but the bad streak went on into 2014 after moving to Melbourne and still having no luck. It wasn’t pretty. I managed to find work again in the third quarter of 2014 and came back to Canberra. The work I have now is pretty good, and it looks like there’s going to be good opportunities for it to continue on for a few years.

This is certainly very good news after the years that were 2013 and 2014. I’m sure that going bankrupt affected my psyche in ways I’m yet to understand, but which affected my reality so that my life itself was financially bankrupt rather than just my bank account. I’m also sure that realisations and learnings about this experience will be ongoing into the future.

Right now, things are looking up.

But still my mind has been murky, and I wasn’t sure why. Until today, when things started coming together.

Over the past couple of years I’ve been driven to oppose feminism because – to put it simply – it violates my values. It irks me, and it vexes me. It got under my skin, and I felt like I should do something more than just complain about it.

I wanted to set in motion something that would support other men, to empower them to find themselves, and to let go of their need to conform to what they think society and other people want them to be. I wanted to help men realise that they can be great men, and they can be whoever they really want to be, despite a society that seems to be doing its best to confuse, belittle and even suppress them for simply being men.

But it’s all too difficult, because of this….

You have to understand, most of these people are not ready to be unplugged. And many of them are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on the system, that they will fight to protect it. – Morpheus

So many men are so inured, so hopelessly dependent on this system that they’re part of, that they will fight to protect it. They will fight those who are trying to help them open their eyes to the truth.

And I return to another quote that I learned many years ago, that helped me move away from so much frustration about the world.

The world will be what it wants to be.

And in the same context, men will be what they want to be. If they want to be something different, if they want a different life, then they’ll make the effort to work out what needs to change, and then start making those changes.

So I’m going to be making some changes in 2015.


Instead of focusing my attention and my energy on those things that I don’t want, I’ll work out exactly what I want and just focus more of my attention and my energy on those things instead.

So you’re going to see more posts in the future about what I want, as I move away from focusing on what I don’t want.

Closing the door on anger and frustration will allow me to open the door to peace and happiness. And that is, I think, a far more worthy goal to aspire to for 2015.

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